Happiness. Good cheer. Positivity. Kindness. Goodness. Self control.
Lack of peace. Confusion. No boundaries. Dismay. Despair.
The two groups of words contrast just like light and darkness.
Many times, when I have shared my story before a group of people at an event, at church, or elsewhere, people have asked me ..
“How do I get over it? How do I release the pain of my past? What do I do with these feelings of depression and despair? How do I forgive the one who hurt me?”
And our conversation then floats to the usual .. what does your support net look like? Have you considered counseling? Are you in a church?
Do you have any close friends who can walk beside you? Do you have any hobbies you enjoy?
The room gets quiet as the soul considers .. what can I change to bring about my healing?
For me, emotions flow freely. It goes along with creativity. Creatives see and feel, express. Emotions come out in my writing and in my crafts. I turned to creativity as I worked through confronting the pain of my past.
Then later, I learned, through various friends, counselors, books and podcasts, that one can improve one’s emotions through a renewed thought process.
Replacing downer thoughts with positive thoughts.
Example: I could never attempt that (goal, dream, occupation, pursuit, etc) because I am not enough (not smart enough, not physically strong enough, not mentally strong enough.)
The Flip: With God’s help, I could accomplish that. I am not sure how, but I am willing to research, learn, grow, practice.
Our emotions and general outcomes can improve when we go after our thought process.
Last night, I delivered a talk in front of nearly 75 people.
And did so with confidence.
There was a time in my life .. even ten years ago .. where that would have been a challenge. But one of my college professors told me that I would one day be a professional speaker and have the ability to move people to greater things. I remember shaking my head, and also remember how all of us in speech class, except one, shook like crazy when we got up to speak.
A very sweet lady I know has claimed Philippians 4:13 (from the Bible) as her verse, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
There is more we could explore on this topic. But for today, ask yourself .. is there something you are not doing, or not trying, exploring or living because of the fear of failure? Or because the emotions just are not there?