I looked at the calendar yesterday, and realized it has been five whole years since I published my book, The Brighter Side of A Darker Thing.
Five years of being brave, sharing my story, of growing, learning, I get stronger every day.
I am an adult survivor of childhood sexual abuse. My perpetrator started “grooming” me, as counselors say, with weird grabs and hugs, around 7 years old. At age 9, full blown rapes began, and shopping trips were promised. I felt so ashamed. (Perhaps the reason I enjoy working for a living. No guilt in money you earn.)
God has done amazing things in my life, for in sharing my story and how I try to look “on the Brighter Side,” I have overcome much.
People have asked me “why don’t you market your book?” and I simply tell them, “how do you market your heart?”
I have experienced great blessings along the way. People I know and others I do not, have started their healing journeys.
I have met artists, musicians, teachers, cops, physicians, writers, government workers. Seems like so many have been through something similar. Abuse seems to know no boundaries.
That first step of telling my story was scary. I am very public about it, and have shared at many conferences, events, workshops, meetings.
Here is the deal. Life changed for me when I decided I had enough. Facing the past, it has actually served to propel me forward.
How does one overcome? For me, having a spiritual connection helped. But also, friends, family, choices to be creative and not self destructive, reading other people’s stories, and making a firm decision to embrace this: my imperfect life made me the person I am today.
Just some thoughts today. Outside, I hear traffic. The birds are chirping, and the rooster is yodeling. Morning is here, a brand new day. A chance to live, create, bless, sing, visit people.
What is your first step? Mine was telling someone my story. Never thought I would put my years of journaling into a book. There is something freeing about releasing the great secret.
Have a beautiful day all.